that’s life!

December 16, 2008

It was like one of those good old nights… it was a friend by my side talking…talking… and talking. We talked about every thing… just everything!

Nostalgic moments of childhood, the experience of growing up in a small town surrounded by scenic nature… the place we love so much, as well the moments of going away from it in search of bread… the moments of meeting new faces only to be an old friend later… finding a home away from home…our words had the gratitude towards Life for all those lovely moments it has blessed us with…so they had innocent acceptance of being stunned for it came with all those surprises at times when they were least expected…

it was the early hours of today when we gave up to our closing eyelids… only to wake up to hear a friend over the phone saying that he has been transferred to his home and is leaving this evening, after being together for three long years!

 With yet another surprise smiling before me, I woke up while the friend was still dreaming his way!

Some times I read ‘The Indian Economy Blog’. I like the kind of articles are published over there. In response to such a thought provoking article Scrap The Spending Limit I gave this comment.

 We cannot always take the law for a ride, and if the enforcing agency is really willing to enforce the law, it becomes a nightmare for the violators! The brightest of the examples is the last general elections in Bihar, where many of us remember how the election commissioner personally toured every nook and corner in Bihar, sometime even on motorcycle, to ensure everything to be free and fair!

But to be very frank, how many times does it happen? You, me and everyone knows the answer! Corrupt people do get away through many loop holes that exist. It is the honest ones who suffer! But at the same time we cannot remove the spending limit as a whole, because that is not the solution.

 The solution lies in enforcing the law, strictly! It is time we have to find alternative ways to do so, rather than the traditional ones! At the same time we have to make the law more applicable by revising it to suit the time’s need!

Regards

Tara Prasad

 

Initiative of Changes

February 21, 2008

What started as a group working among university students, then came the word “re-Armament” at a time when the word got used widely this one was an exception of “Armament of morality” for a ‘hate-free, fear-free, greed-free world’….

Bell The Cat

February 19, 2008

“Bell the Cat”- I tell you that’s much easier than getting your leave approved…. it makes you astrologer, weather forecaster… much more than what your job demands !

Father Tongue !

February 19, 2008

Why do we call it as ‘Mother Tongue’, when we really speak the tongue of our father ???

Hint :- If a Telugu guy gets married to an Oriya girl what language their kids will speak???

any one ?

February 14, 2008

There is a lot happenning in the blogosphere  about Raj Thackrey. Tons of posts are being written about what is happening and what should have happened !

Is any one listening there???

Shocked??? Hold your Breath !

February 12, 2008

Sometimes what affects us more is the way we handle adversity than the adversity itself. Tough times come with problems, losses. And of course we are not pleased to welcome them. But they are there, irrespective of our liking or disliking them, and it’s really beyond of our part to have a grip on their coming into our lives.

But can’t we do a lot once they are already there? Can we reduce the shock that they create in our lives, because I feel the harshest of what we see in our lives is caused not by the tough time, but by how we try to handle it.

No I am not trying to be a visionary philosopher or a saint. I am trying to see myself as just another person in this rat race, who has to go through all those tough moments that life offers. So when I see myself, my friends, colleagues or anyone on the prime time of a news channel or on the front page of a magazine, I see him as a victim of both, the situation as well as his approach towards it, the later hurting him more than the former.  

Look at our lives and you can see many instances in past where we could have handled the situation in a better way. I know it’s difficult. To keep it calm at the time of adversity is not easy at all. It will take a price to prove others as wrong, when they say you have lost everything and lost every chance to start a fresh. But we have to pay it. Because it is our lives and no price is too high for a second chance in life. And I tell you in the longer run of life you are going to realize how small a price that was paid that got you a chance to get up and run again! Yes it is difficult. But what is more important is it’s our life and no one else is going to do it for us. Others may console but they are not going to compensate.

 Consciously we have to try to minimize the shock that comes with. When we are shaken by a tough time we are depressed and it tends to a situation where we lose the mental toughness to handle things around, which end up making things even worse. Being sad doesn’t help us in any way compensating for what we lost; but surely it drains us of our ability to save whatever is still there! So if you ask how we can minimize the shock, the simplest yet the toughest (?) answer will be by being aware of it. Being aware that you are shocked won’t be an easy thing to do. At the same time we are aware of it every time we are shaken! Confused?

The thing is whenever something happens to us that we did not want to welcome, we try to oppose it. We wish that it would have never happened, at a time when it has already happened.  And we try not to accept this. All these things happen only after we are aware of what has happened! The sequence is we are aware and then we started reacting, the second part of the sequence taking the major part of time and energy. There we can make a change. We have to spend more time being conscious of what has happened, there by leaving relatively less time to react to the happenings in an ugly way. Soon we will be conscious more of what is happening right now, than whatever has already happened, thus being able to take care of the present and save whatever still can be saved, instead of mourning over the spilled milk.

So the mantra is hold back when you are hit. Pause for a second. Realize that you are being shaken. Be aware of the happening and then get into the action. That would be a better deal indeed!